Devin Dobran joined me on the show to share about her healing journey and how it’s transforming her life! We talk about how to change your thinking; grow to love yourself; become more mindful; set boundaries; and more. This was a jam packed conversation that gives a window in to someone who’s actively doing the inner work. Lots of practicals woven in, so be sure to listen and don’t stop there. Take action!

Another benefit to boundaries is that it helps other people know how to relate to you, which is super kind. Because they know the expectations, they know, oh if Corinne says she can't do this on Tuesday I don't need to ask her three more times….

This doesn't have to be another podcast episode you're listening to on a random day of the week. This can be a moment in time that allows you to turn a corner! Because you're listening to two people who've made decisions, who have said, yes, I could keep on the same path I’ve been on or I go stay on the ones my parent walked. I could go towards this bent that I have, but I'm not going to! It's bigger than ourselves, and it takes our own decision to start.

This episode is especially for the person who grew up in the Christian church; you've deconstructed your faith and you still feel torn between leaving or staying! I share bits of my story and bring up some points that I hope you find reassuring.

For any of us that create changes and shifts, new patterns, and offer new atmospheres at home and otherwise… when we allow our kids to make mistakes and we're not coming at them with judgment because we're not actually looking at it through that perfectionistic lens anymore… what a gift we give them. What a gift.

The healing journey is layered… So as I was healing, it wasn't instantaneous that I started to be comfortable around men. It wasn’t immediate that I started to feel comfortable showing up as myself in whatever way I needed. But over time, little by little, it was happening. And then there came a day where I just realized, my goodness, I don't feel afraid around men.

I went on a journey that was messy and uncomfortable, not just uncomfortable for me, uncomfortable for the people around me. I'm really grateful for the ones that allowed me to be myself throughout the process and that loved me through it.

I love being a mother, but the demands are never ending. Night or day, I feel the pressure of being a mom. I know what it is to wake up during the night, to nurse babies during the night, to have interrupted sleep, to have not a moment in your day to take care of your own needs because there's so many other little people who need you so desperately.

I had the chance at a full scholarship to the Culinary Institute of America, but my family needed me… so I turned it down and didn’t go to college.

What I certainly don't want is to have my children grow up and for me to consider all the good work I did, but at what cost? What's the trade? I want to have deep connections with my children… I actually want to have a thriving, fun relationship with my husband. I want to be able to connect with new friends and feel that I have the time, the capacity, energy to do all of this.

Compassion and understanding, acknowledgement with kindness, helps to move us forward. It helps us to get up and feel a little bit more empowered, a little bit more energized to go do the thing we need to do… deep down what we want to do.

We are free to let whatever we wish go. And we're going to talk specifically today about the stories that we think, the stories that determine our perception of others and of ourselves and of the world at large.

If we learn that “Oh, this is natural to feel, I'm allowed to feel it”...then we can naturally move through it and not get stuck.We didn't suppress it, we didn't repress it…we naturally processed through it.

Reflect on the people in your life that have started to set boundaries - and allow yourself to take on a new perspective. Challenge the underlying beliefs, the stories you tell yourself, and offer to other people what you hope to receive in return.

Sometimes we're drawn or pulled to the busier lifestyle because of our own trauma. When we slow down, we actually have to confront more of our inner world. Sometimes we have a hard time falling asleep at night because we've been so busy throughout the day…

Each one of us as a parent now, as an adult person, has the opportunity to heal ourselves so that we don't keep the patterns ongoing - we can notice the needs of our children and meet their needs alongside of us meeting our own.

We get to choose whether we're going to live our life and hold a perspective based on the perspective that people around us when we were growing up had, or if we're going to choose a different one.

One reason that some of us hate being misunderstood and why it hurts so deeply is when our earliest experiences, that with our caregivers and our parenteral figures, when those people don't speak to understand us, we learn the pain of not ever really being known.

What is one thing you can celebrate about yourself, about your progress this last year? And as you do that, feel gratitude in your heart. Feel the gratitude that things are able to be different.

If you’re open to connecting more deeply with your past self, walk through this visualization exercise with me.