I've done this complete turnaround where now I say, all right, I'm actually gonna slow down to be able to notice what I'm feeling and sit with the discomfort of it. I'm going to slow down the pace of my life so that I'm not depleted and exhausted. I'm going to live in a way that not just gives my children choice, but gives me choice.

I love you bringing up this idea that we engage with the voice of critic because we open ourselves up to understanding more about us instead of just shutting it down because we're afraid of it or because of all the other reasons. I just, I could feel that so deeply when you bring in that element. And I do think there's a key there. 

We all deserve to get to talk about how it is for us living our life, how it is for us, managing our emotions throughout our days. This is not an easy thing to do. 

When it comes to conscious parenting and faith practices, I think it's really important that we allow ourselves to have permission to do it differently than our parents or the others that we respect are doing. It's easy to compare. It's easy to allow judgment to come in the way.

Really, this is a moment to reflect on this idea that when we're told, listen and do without question. We lose our autonomy. We give up our own individuality, our personalities. We stop using the mind we were given in the fullness of what we could be using it for.

It can be very difficult if you're in a place where you really dislike who you are. And there's many things you're unhappy about, and there's many things that you shame yourself about. It can be hard to practice self-compassion. Because it's not easy to be kind if we're used to bullying our Self. But we can learn it. We can grow in this. And I say that because I know. I remember how it was to look in the mirror and to dislike myself. To have a lot of disgust for my body. For the way I showed up. For the way I acted or interacted, and now I know what it's like to like the reflection of what I see. To like the version of me at all different sorts of stages.

So take, for example, those times when you do get triggered, when you're like, everything seemed like it was going fine and all of a sudden, it felt like out of nowhere, I had a huge reaction. I got super scared, or I started to yell. I became angry or irritable. Well, there is a reason for that as we get curious sometimes we’re able to understand a little bit more what going on below the surface, and sometimes it’s in those moments that our inner child is actually showing up and trying to communicate with us. 

Well, the point isn't to do it perfectly. Give yourself permission to make mistakes. Because if you've been conditioned to think doing life perfectly is the goal, then I want to invite you to this restful place that actually changes that scenario and says, what if it's not? What if perfection isn't the goal?

A lot of it is just knowing where to start. And so I always say start small, especially when I'm working with busy clients. They tend to overextend in all areas. So instead of just pulling everything out of your closet, and then you look up an hour later, everything's on your bed and all over the floor and your closet's empty. And you're like, well, I am done organizing. Like that sounds horrible. So we're just going to start super small….