In this brief episode I share about an experience that I had awhile back that helped to ground me and reminded me that I am not alone. I share it so that you too can know, you are not alone. You are surrounded and supported, championed by love!

In the message I send your way many things... if you are open to love and light, take a listen ❤

We’ve always lived within our body, and our body stores memory. We consciously or subconsciously remember. Your body carries unresolved trauma. I'm going to share some practical ways you can self parent and help to heal yourself.

Today's episode is a lesson taken from my program Radically Change Your Life. Healing is complex and simplistic all at once. Join me and learn how you can help yourself heal!

Abuse, neglect and emotional abandonment are all devastating. We have all experienced some form of trauma and through it we learned how to cope, to survive and get through. But unresolved trauma always needs a safe and loving environment in order to heal.

Today’s conversation is for anyone who battles and deals with intrusive thoughts. Intrusive thoughts are anything that makes you think you have something to fear, you’re less than, makes you shut down or run away, or stops you dead in your tracks. It’s the thoughts that seem to run over and over in our minds or interrupt us in the middle of our day.

When defensive we feel as if we need to protect ourselves from a threat. When we feel misunderstood, judged, unheard, unloved it easily make us feel unsafe and on the defensive. As much as possible, during the conversation as you recognize that you're feeling the need to protect yourself, pause and remind yourself you are safe. Do your best to not interrupt as the other person is speaking.

You can thrive in life if you want! I'm here to help you understand yourself more and find a way to heal from the roots. Emotional responses are indicators. They show us that more is happening deeper within.

Feeling emotions can be uncomfortable and downright scary. There are various reasons we block ourselves from feeling. And we need to do that sometimes in order to cope and survive through difficulties and traumatic situations. In this space, with me, all of your emotions are welcome—I’m not afraid of them. I actually think we need to let them surface because they’re indicators. They’re helping us to know what’s going on below the surface and help us gain a better understanding of you and why you feel what you feel.

Conscious awareness—recognizing your thoughts and being in touch with your feelings. Every day we experience sensations throughout the body. How aware are you?

I share about my personal life and explain what intuitive living looks and feels like. I’m also going to unveil some big changes coming for my family!

A year ago my husband had an accident on the job he was working. It was a traumatic situation that didn’t traumatize me!! My tendency would have been to make sure my husband and my kids had what they needed during that difficult time but not to think of and care for myself. Instead I walked through those weeks following the accident conscious of what I needed and taking action to make sure I cared for myself. I was able to clearly see the inner healing that had taken place all the months and years prior, and I healed myself even more through the process.

Sleep is important for rest, but what about the struggle to sleep when you have a chance? Kylee Nelson came on the show back in the Spring and shared her tips on improving sleep. To listen to that go here, episode 16. If you lay down to rest and thoughts flood your mind, here’s what you can do. Be intentional to process what’s happening in your life through out the day, so that you aren’t flooded with intrusive, or other thoughts, when you go to lay down. Engaging with your thoughts is necessary. Create pockets of time before you lay down to allow your mind to process and wander. The pockets of time you create can be small, and quick. Start small and build up!

Rest is necessary!

I’m going to share about what a lifestyle of rest looks like for me. It’s a simplified life. It’s a slower pace. It’s more gentle on the mind + body.

What was modeled to you as you grew up? What was praised and defined as good + productive when you were a child?

The more I heal, the less codependent I live. Healing comes by learning and practicing. We must practice to learn. For anything to become second nature we must do it many times. Intentional living is required for change!

I’m going to share about my experience with prejudice and rejection. This conversation is evidence of more inner healing because this is not something I would have opened up to talk about, even a short while ago.

Let's talk about ways to support yourself!

Be practical. Speak up for yourself. Ask for what you need! Don’t expect other people to know what you need. Start to become aware of what your body needs. Practice recognizing what your body is trying to communicate. Does it need rest? More nutritious foods? Time for play and fun?

Consciously living means consciously parenting. Nobody is exempt from trauma. Even if I do my best, my kids will still be affected by traumatic events in their lifetime. I can’t protect them from it all. As parents, all we can do is the best with what we know and what we learn.

Let’s continue the conversation around emotional triggering. In today’s episode I share a personal experience of how I am triggered and how inner healing is helping me to feel less emotionally activated. I touch on how codependency shows up and compare how it looks to live interdependent.

Self parenting or reparenting is very healing. It’s imperative to experience feeling surrounded by love and supported. Feeling isolated and alone is a set up for anxiety, depression and despair. Safe loving touch that’s comfortable to you can help too. A hug can go a long way! Seek support that you trust as you process your triggers.

Calling all kids! Bring your littles around and take a listen. My 5 y/o daughter, Laella shares how she handles her emotions through the every day. We even touch on how to make chores more fun and what to do when you feel like sneaking some sweets.